Ethics, Values & Morals

Ethics, Values & Morals

Ethics, values, morlas. This lecture is not
designed to develop your values for you. You already have them. You’ve been
developing them your whole life. Rather, it is designed to help you identify the
values you already posses. Then you can decide which ones you want to keep.
Ethics is the way we treat ourselves. It’s the rationale or principles upon
which we base our moral decisions.They govern our behavior. Many of us belong to
groups that have a code of ethics. This basically sets expectations for the
group so we know how to relate with one another, because you have to work
together. Some examples of some ethical principles would be sexual behavior should not be forced on anyone. Fidelity in marriage is a must. Marriage partners and loved
ones need to be responsive to each other’s needs. Isn’t that one of the reasons we get
married? If we have a situation where we have one ethical dilemma that clashes with
another, we call these ethical dilemmas. Suppose you held the following ethical principles: marriage should be a sexually monogamous relationship and
people have a right to a satisfying and fulfilling sexual life. If you were in a
marriage in which you were sexually unfulfilled for some reason these two ethical
principles would conflict. In such a situation which principle would take
precedence over the other? If your religion or culture provides
answers then you have something to fall back on. If not then each person must
rank their own values to make the choice. There are actually two types of ethics. The first is rule ethics. This is the guide to moral decision-making in all situations. Do we
not get married for better or worse? So if you were a rule ethicist, no matter what your situation was in your marriage you’re sticking with it. You will be faithful to
your partner. The second type is the situation ethics. This means that all situations are unique and no one set of rules apply to your situation.
If you were looking for specific situation and decide what you would do
you would say I got married and I expected to be sexually fulfilled.
However; in my marriage I am NOT so because of that then I will end the
marriage or you possibly would choose to cheat on your partner. Values are the worth or importance we reassigned to those ethical principles.They give us
direction, they influence what we do. If we value our commitment to a monogamous relationship more than sexual fulfillment, then we will resolve a conflict between
the two by choosing not to have an extramarital relationship. If we seek
fulfillment more highly than we will resolve the same conflict differently. Our values mature along with this. They
are learned. We learned them from our parents, friends, school, books, TV, religion. These are the same sources that we learn about sex. Many times we don’t think about what we learned. We just go
along with the tide, placing worth on those things that people around us value. We each have what we call a sexual script. One theory is that we express our sexual values in organized and
predictable ways. Our value system provides a framework or script
for our behavior. Those scripts prescribe standard ways of behaving in given settings. So, who are we going to have sex with? Only someone close to our age range, only somebody of the opposite gender, only someone we are married to? What are we
going to do sexually? We do sexual things that are determined by our sexual script.
We may feel comfortable engaging in certain sexual acts; but apprehensive
about doing others. When are we gonna have sex? The time of day or week or period in our life. Mornings, Saturday nights, anytime? If our sexual script dictates that sexual intercourse should be only for
reproductive reasons we will engage in sex only during the reproductive part of
our life. Where we have sex. Most people want privacy; however, we do
hear those elevators stories. 🙂 Why? In my on-campus class if I were to do
this lecture in class I would ask for ten reasons why. I easily get ten
reasons every time with the number one being pleasure but also self affirmation, to relieve anxiety, excitement, to relieve
loneliness, produce a child, to obtain love, to dominate, express anger, fulfill a
duty or even to obtain money. We develop our sexual scripts from infancy through
adult and we can change our script. Our morals are what are right or good. We say
that is moral or right or bad. We say that is immoral. So who’s decide if we are doing something that’s moral or immoral? Only us. If we were to determine
that for somebody else that would be considered immoral. Your book also talks about an Hedonist. That’s a person that sees pleasure as the highest
good. Another term is Asceticism which means celibacy. Many times people feel guilt over their sexual decisions. When our behavior does not follow
our sexual script that can produce guilt Or, when we violate the standards we have set for ourselves. Guilt is not always a bad thing as it
can motivate us to redirect our behavior. Some actions to avoid guilt is to
behave more acceptable next time and if it’s from an earlier experience you
need to decide if that behavior still requires guilt feelings. Many individuals feel guilty over having
premarital sex. Well if you are married and now
still feeling guilt over the premarital sex you need to get over
it and determine that it’s not necessary that you have those guilt feelings
anymore as you are now married. And, if your guilt involves somebody else, then you
need to seek and ask forgiveness from that person. Erotophobia is an extreme action to guilt. This can cause one to have an aversion to sexual love. It may require counseling. Some widely accepted principles are we have the right to not be forced, to non
coercion, the right to not be lied to or tricked which is non deceit. The principle
of treatment of people as ends. Nobody wants to be an end product, we want to be valued as individuals. And then the principle of respect for our beliefs. So, we need to
find our own healthy sexual values. We do know ourselves. Our goal should be to feel good
about ourselves. If we are doing something that we don’t
feel good about, we need to stop that behavior. Don’t let ourselves be bound by peer
pressure. Yes, college students still feel peer pressure. Find out what your religion has to say
about sexual matters, if you have a religion that you like to to learn the
values from. Think ahead. We need to clarify our values, look at the
consequences, and when it comes to sexuality pregnancy and disease are consequences. So, we need to make sure we have proper contraception to protect us against
those things. We need to consider what level of responsibility we have toward others. Learn good communication skills so we can express ourselves. Decide what
role we want love to play in our life. It’s an ongoing thing — determining
our values will grow with us as we go throughout life.

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  1. Sleep inducing video. Very unenegaged mechanical reading of booring bulletpoints. PowerPoint focus syndrome.

  2. You just deal in show morals if you don’t factor in ill gotten gains where it matters most. Who am I to you all? Will you cheat me out of my spiritual and moral inheritance and heritage?

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